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A note to my pre-adoptive mom self

Dear rosy-eyed pre-adoptive mom self, First, let me start off by saying that your heart is big and your intentions are as noble as you know how to make them at this point of your life. I appreciate your no-fear, go-big-or-go-home attitude. I also know you are as stubborn as they come, so there is […]

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Treat adoptive families like they have cancer

A long-time friend of mine was recently diagnosed with an aggressive breast cancer. From the time her diagnosis was confirmed to starting chemo was only about 2 weeks. In that time, her village rallied around her. There is a private Facebook group where she can post updates for friends and family, but more strikingly are […]


An adoptee’s take on the new adoption regulations

Welcome to National Adoption Month. It seems an appropriate time to lend my two-cents to the Department of State’s proposed amendments to the “requirements for accreditation of agencies and approval of persons to provide adoption services in intercountry adoption cases.” In case you’re new around here, I’m a Korean, adult adoptee with who has welcomed 4 […]

City meets county #2

City meets County | Lesson #2

We had a youth (we’ll call him Jay), who aged out of an inner city foster care system, live with us for the better part of the last year. When we started this journey (even after taking in three older children through adoption), we didn’t even know what we didn’t know. Because this also happened […]